Richard Nicholls
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Procrastination & Perfectionism
Procrastination is both doing something and not doing something at the same time.
It's a voluntary, yet irrational, delay of an intended action and is a devil on many people's shoulders nudging them towards doing something else instead.
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Holding Back The Tears
Переглядів 4821 годину тому
Why, when we feel emotion, would we need to leak water out of our face? It doesn't seem to be particularly beneficial does it? Today I explore some of the research into it and share some techniques to help us gain some control over our leaky faces. Become a patron of the podcast! www.patreon.com/richardnicholls Subscribe to my Newsletter richardnicholls.net/subscribe/ Social Media Links Twitter...
Insecurity
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Combining low self esteem with imposter syndrome can be a tricky thing to manage, especially if you spend so much time and effort comparing yourself to others. Become a patron of the podcast! www.patreon.com/richardnicholls Subscribe to my Newsletter richardnicholls.net/subscribe/ Social Media Links Twitter richardnicholls Instagram richardnichollsreal Facebook faceboo...
Social Anxiety
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Whether it was when we were young or later in life, we've probably all felt anxious in situations that put other people in a position to judge us. It's never too late to learn to override it though. Become a patron of the podcast! www.patreon.com/richardnicholls Subscribe to my Newsletter richardnicholls.net/subscribe/ Social Media Links Twitter richardnicholls Instagram instagram.c...
Hope
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Research has shown that hope can significantly improve mental health outcomes. It boosts resilience, helps you to cope better with stress and setbacks and means that you're more likely to engage in positive behaviours that support your well-being. But hope isn't something that just happens; it's something you might need to cultivate and it could even save your life. Become a patron of the podca...
Values vs Goals
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Values vs Goals
Gaslighting
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Gaslighting
Taking Things Personally
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Taking Things Personally
Self Discipline
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Self Discipline
A Smile
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A Smile
It's Good To Talk
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It's Good To Talk
Self Sabotage
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Self Sabotage
Ageing
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Ageing
Difficult Decisions
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Difficult Decisions
ADHD vs Lazy
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ADHD vs Lazy
People Pleasing
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People Pleasing
PTSD
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PTSD
Insecure Attachment
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Insecure Attachment
You Can't Always Trust Your Gut
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You Can't Always Trust Your Gut
Perfectionism
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Perfectionism
Empathy
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Empathy
What COULD You Be Grateful For?
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What COULD You Be Grateful For?
Rectangle Breathing
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Rectangle Breathing
Hoarding
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Hoarding
Mindful Moments
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Mindful Moments
Dealing With Entitled People
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Dealing With Entitled People
Anniversary Reactions
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Anniversary Reactions
Happiness In A Depressing World
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Happiness In A Depressing World
Comparison
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Comparison
Forgive & Forget
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Forgive & Forget

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  • @sarahdrake282
    @sarahdrake282 9 днів тому

    Brilliant. Thanks Richard, this really helped. I’m unable to cry at real life though but ball my eyes out at anything on screens!

  • @InstaOmry
    @InstaOmry 9 днів тому

    Thank you, im a veteran trying to cope with my disabilty. Your words connected the dots for me.

  • @Emmabruceofficial
    @Emmabruceofficial 9 днів тому

    The word hysteria translates to the Greek to mean uterus. It’s a term used to dismiss women’s emotions deeming them nuts basically for feeling menopausal.

  • @Emmabruceofficial
    @Emmabruceofficial 9 днів тому

    Always get headaches and coldsores after crying.

  • @Emmabruceofficial
    @Emmabruceofficial 9 днів тому

    Cheers Richard, happy Friday🎉

  • @gamingtrashcan9030
    @gamingtrashcan9030 12 днів тому

    Damn, New Fear Unlocked Don't Fuck Up Relationships People.

  • @Emmabruceofficial
    @Emmabruceofficial 18 днів тому

    Thanks Richard for always showing up ❤

  • @AshleyMonck69
    @AshleyMonck69 21 день тому

    I’m surprised I’m not dead already!

  • @DIYPanda1
    @DIYPanda1 25 днів тому

    What a shirt!

    • @RichardNicholls
      @RichardNicholls 25 днів тому

      I know, right! I put it on and the sun went in though!

  • @Your_Target
    @Your_Target Місяць тому

    nice

  • @cantflyforshit
    @cantflyforshit Місяць тому

    Thank you Richard, very based and valuepilled with a dash of goal-maxxing ❤

  • @ahmetbaturalpmirzabey5141
    @ahmetbaturalpmirzabey5141 2 місяці тому

    Hello Bill Burr. Good content💗

  • @emeargllawgind5209
    @emeargllawgind5209 2 місяці тому

    I thought you were talking about MPs.

  • @sk33b07
    @sk33b07 2 місяці тому

    no im not, youre crazy

  • @ahmedsharif1240
    @ahmedsharif1240 2 місяці тому

    Good

  • @mangamama9881
    @mangamama9881 2 місяці тому

    I actually think it's great. It's normal and it makes people interesting. I don't like socializing but if I was in a relationship I would totally love to hear what my partner experienced with friends and I would make sure that he knows that I WANT him to hang out with friends 😊

    • @RichardNicholls
      @RichardNicholls 2 місяці тому

      That’s exactly how it needs to be to keep a relationship healthy.

  • @quaz-art
    @quaz-art 3 місяці тому

    As someone with NPD I really appreciate you talking about this stuff with so much compassion! It's a disorder that sucks to deal with, it makes interpersonal relationships incredibly difficult :(

  • @yb958
    @yb958 3 місяці тому

    This is a great reminder for me ❤

  • @skyrift317
    @skyrift317 3 місяці тому

    Wise words

  • @neilperkins9033
    @neilperkins9033 3 місяці тому

    This was really good to hear, thank you. I've recently started a new job and found it mostly welcoming but it seems wherever I go there is always someone who has a displeasent, judgemental demeaour toward me. I need to remind myself that this person has not earnt their value to me yet... they are as new to me as I am to them

  • @valentinasiregar5443
    @valentinasiregar5443 3 місяці тому

    Thank you for your nice talk. Every one should know this, to take not things personally and... check. Lots of love from Valentina from Holland.❤❤❤

  • @travisg2303
    @travisg2303 4 місяці тому

    Ok. I did the thing. Gonna go back to scrolling for "just 5 more minutes."

  • @supernerd1999
    @supernerd1999 4 місяці тому

    This video gave me the jolt I needed actually

  • @TheGreatburdon
    @TheGreatburdon 4 місяці тому

    nonsense .. just an excuse

    • @swingardium706
      @swingardium706 4 місяці тому

      What does this even mean?

    • @TheGreatburdon
      @TheGreatburdon 4 місяці тому

      Jobs for the entitled .. make up any old 'illness' for laziness then babble nonsense

    • @thechannelofultimatedestin4720
      @thechannelofultimatedestin4720 4 місяці тому

      Yes, finding ways to deal with your shortcomings is just making excuses.

  • @IAmTheRealHim
    @IAmTheRealHim 4 місяці тому

    It’s almost like most people can’t afford to wait a year for an extra 10$ when money is money.

  • @3Zclap
    @3Zclap 4 місяці тому

    yeah but what if you take that £10,00 invest it into something or buy something and flip it for a higher price then you have more then £20 in less then 1 year plus you can spend the money you made on something else and flip it again or invest in it again...

    • @IAmTheRealHim
      @IAmTheRealHim 4 місяці тому

      What can you invest 10£ in that nets you a 100% profit?

    • @3Zclap
      @3Zclap 4 місяці тому

      @@IAmTheRealHim when I was a kid we would turn £3,00 into £8,00 by buying 4 packs of Mars or snickers for £1 then buying 4 packs of powerade for £2 and selling the Mars and snickers for £1 each and selling the powerade for £1 you could make £8,00 from 3 quid and then do the same thing the next day so by investing £3 you could make £10 in 2 days 8+8=16 take away the costs of the items "£3 a day" = £10 profit over 2 days 👍

  • @Emmabruceofficial
    @Emmabruceofficial 4 місяці тому

    Thanks for always showing up ❤

  • @Rymbn-jy7gl
    @Rymbn-jy7gl 4 місяці тому

    Love your energy love your voice love the music you put great content keep going King ❤

  • @boxeriain
    @boxeriain 4 місяці тому

    What in the world are you on about? It's obvious that if you're unwell, then you're not going to manage to show up

    • @bunnywatchesstuff
      @bunnywatchesstuff 4 місяці тому

      Depressed people still have to pay their bills. There's no reason to assume they'd be worse employees than anyone else.

    • @boxeriain
      @boxeriain 4 місяці тому

      @@bunnywatchesstuff I'm not denying that. I am just using logic to say that depressed people are not going to be reliable, since they are unwell. Good work must come from good health and good concentration. It's just logical. However, it's important to acknowledge that a good employer should be mindful and kind, to encourage good mental health care

  • @HighLow_Milo
    @HighLow_Milo 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for stating this so well!

  • @neutral_puma845
    @neutral_puma845 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for this 😁🙏🏽

  • @Thediabeticequestrian
    @Thediabeticequestrian 5 місяців тому

    So true!! And I find that I can go on being optimistic provided everything goes well but as soon as the scales tip I still slip right back to the pessimism & self hatred! I literally need someone to tell me to be kind to myself sometimes 😅 Another awesome short 😊

  • @ranc1977
    @ranc1977 5 місяців тому

    "If you feel that you can only be yourself when you're alone, ask yourself what would happen if everyone saw the real you, your true self?" I'm coping pasting this text into my social media at Mastodon and share it. Answer told us Sinead O'Connor: To say what you feel is to dig your own grave Album: I Do Not Want What I Haven't Got Black Boys on Mopeds Song by Sinéad O'Connor

  • @ranc1977
    @ranc1977 5 місяців тому

    I love this! In sea of horrible social anxiety videos based on ableist CBT, this is a real gem! Toxic people cause social anxiety. They trigger us into hiding and panic.

  • @fireball18k95
    @fireball18k95 5 місяців тому

    Thanks for sharing the smile :)

  • @drewdriver9130
    @drewdriver9130 5 місяців тому

    Benality reminds me of bananas but yea what ifs don't mattah and the past is dead story cism er somth'n

  • @memelord9232
    @memelord9232 5 місяців тому

    im glad men talk about their mental health

  • @yirmiuc6107
    @yirmiuc6107 5 місяців тому

    Hello Vaas

  • @Martinbeef
    @Martinbeef 5 місяців тому

    Good advice!!

  • @Thediabeticequestrian
    @Thediabeticequestrian 5 місяців тому

    I don’t know how I ended up seeing this, but I needed it today! I’ve just been given notice from my boss at work so need to find another job. It’s going to be the kick up the ass I needed I think. You speak the truth! Thank you.

    • @RichardNicholls
      @RichardNicholls 5 місяців тому

      Sorry to hear that but glad to be in the right place at the right time for you. Here's to 2024 and any changes it brings!

  • @PrincessBabykinz
    @PrincessBabykinz 6 місяців тому

    I don't understand how that worked 🤔 did they not like making money? I would be happier getting paid more. Are you saying have a good attitude then you won't sabotage your goals because you believe its a good goal worth pursuing?

    • @RichardNicholls
      @RichardNicholls 6 місяців тому

      People like making money, of course. But we also resent doing the work and seem to enjoy some types less if we're paid more.

  • @Emmabruceofficial
    @Emmabruceofficial 6 місяців тому

    This is me everyday 😂

  • @yb958
    @yb958 7 місяців тому

    What a great jumper and a great video !

    • @RichardNicholls
      @RichardNicholls 7 місяців тому

      Ha! Thank you. It's my favourite Christmas jumper. I put it on the the video and then kept it on all day because it was so warm.

  • @Emmabruceofficial
    @Emmabruceofficial 8 місяців тому

    Aging lol on the cusp of my birthday this is very fitting 😂

  • @laaaliiiluuu
    @laaaliiiluuu 9 місяців тому

    ADHD is not a disorder but simply a kind of personality trait that doesn't fit into an industrial society where you are supposed to "sit still and do your job". It is however an advantage in a hunter-gatherer environment so simply seek out a lifestyle that is more natural to our human ancestors and you will be fine. So many "disorders" are only labeled disorder because people don't fit into the status quo.

  • @Emmabruceofficial
    @Emmabruceofficial 9 місяців тому

    Lol about ADHD being ‘modern’ 😂

  • @fedai1196
    @fedai1196 9 місяців тому

    İ used to be people pleaser, help people even though i know most of the time they wouldn't help me back if i'm in need. Being known as good, nice guy is good thing, but i didn't like that a lot, because most people don't really respect people pleasers. Then i changed myself a bit and started to not give a shit about people until they really ask or beg me for help. And it worked, believe me most people got confused and some even said that " you have changed a lot" but i couldn't care less. At the end i started realizing that people in the past used to not care about you, even disrespect you now started being careful while interacting with you. That is important in every aspect, say it work, job, home any places and crowd. Nobody is important than yourself, not friends, not wife, not even family or relatives. If you find yourself surrounded by enemies or controlled, manipulated by crowd, either fight back, keep your ground, introduce your standarts and what things not to be done to you beforehand, make yourself predictable or get the hell out of there fast. Try to find and hang out with people that know your values and respect you at all cost and never hurt them. Remember you was born alone and you gonna die alone. Value yourself

  • @PSwayBeats
    @PSwayBeats 9 місяців тому

    I choose not to matter the only one that matters is my son and that actually makes me happy

  • @ryanpritchard9230
    @ryanpritchard9230 9 місяців тому

    People pleasing seems to stem from a lack of self respect from what I’ve seen. If you lack self respect it’s probably because you don’t see anything of value from yourself or what you do. Pretty tough feeling that, you’d tend to make fun of yourself before anyone else has a chance to because it’s easier than sticking up for yourself. If you want to change and improve your life the simplest way is to change your actions. If you feel ugly, go to the gym and buy clothes that make you feel good. If you feel worthless, learn new skills and take yourself out of your comfort zone more. And if it all feels too hard then you know you’re doing the right thing. Nothing good comes easy, the number one rule of life is polarity which means equal and opposite. If you want to have a good life you need to expose yourself to suffering, because if you give yourself an easy life all you will experience is suffering. Taking control of that suffering is what puts you in a good position. Hope this helps someone :)